Kids and Texting – It Ain’t All Bad

by Gayla Baer

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It’s rare these days to find a teen or tween even, without a cell phone in their hands. Everyone is texting. It’s the way to communicate – and we, the parents must learn to deal with it.

Gone are the days of kids pacing the floor – trying to build up the nerve to phone the object of their affection. In it’s wake we have the option of texting – while it’s much less harsh to be rejected by texting, I do find concern with how much texting might be altering my kids ability to communicate effectively.

Still, there are positives to be considered:

While face-to-face conversations are best, especially when it comes to those important topics such as sex, drugs and grades – but if your kids spend a great deal of time texting, take advantage of their obsessions with technology.

According to a study conducted by Kelton Research for Samsung –

68% of American parents communicate with their kids through text message.

56% of teens age 13-19 said they communicate more often with their parents since they began text messaging.

53% of teens that text message said their relationship with their parents has improved because of texting.

51% of parents who text message with their teens say they communicate more often with their kids now than they did before they began text messaging.

Texting gives kids more freedom and space but allows parents to keep in touch as often as needed.

Having the ability to think about and edit your messages before pressing send means there’s less chance of saying something you’ll regret later.

In as much as many parents find frustration in their child’s addiction to texting – there’s obviously positives that should be factored in as well.

My kids have cell phones – they text and have even started coming to me asking for help in composing text messages to those special girls that have captured their eye – how could I find fault in that? Not only have my kids turned into fine young men, but they trust MOM to help them become men that women will want.

Has texting had a positive impact on your life or on that of your family? I’d love to hear more!

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Caesar March 2, 2009 at 10:26 pm

It’s cheaper to send a message. Sometimes you could be in a crowded place and you might not hear whom you’re talking therefore texting is the perfect solution. It had a positive impact on my life. I’m young, and I’m texting a lot. I really enjoy it!

Gerryt April 1, 2009 at 4:51 pm

The problem with texting
for me is the keyboard, (numbers), that you have to type to compose your message.
The buttons are so small and having 3 letters per button is a pain.
I have seen a new cellphone that has a full keyboard that slides out from behind the phone and has all the letters on their own keys.
Seems like a good solution :)

Tom Anderson July 18, 2009 at 11:23 pm

I agree, texting is a great tool. If it’s too loud to hear a phone call, but you need to get information to someone, you don’t have many other options. If your child or friend does not have a text messaging plan, they could always use a free texting site like http://www.fivedigittext.com. That site allows replies and does not require you to know the other person’s carrier (most require carrier and do not support replies).

make international call November 14, 2009 at 1:47 pm

thank you, i like it
nice read :-)

reversetelephonelookup January 22, 2010 at 2:58 am

Sometimes I wish we didn’t have cell phone anymore. Life was so much simpler 20 years ago.

Rachel Smith May 18, 2011 at 6:56 pm

I am a mother of a wild 13 year old girl and she is always texting with her phone. I feel safe about her communication with friends on her phone because my girlfriend just recently informed me about a site that actually monitors your child’s email and texting capabilities. Whenever anyone writes something that is inappropriate I get the email or text and have to give permission for it to be passed down to my daughter. It has been extremely helpful for me and my nerves. The site is mousmail.com if anyone needs help as well.

Angela May 19, 2011 at 4:56 pm

Hi Rachel,

I am so glad you suggested trying Mousemail! I have a 15 year old girl who seems to spend her entire life on the computer or on her cell phone. All she does is text! Anyway, one night I noticed my her phone sitting on the kitchen counter charging (she had already gone to bed for the night). I know she has a boyfriend and since I have seen so many cases of sexting gone bad on the news, I decided to go through her phone. I felt awful doing this but I am glad I did because what I found totally shocked me!

The topless picture of her boyfriend was a bit startling, but nothing compared to the full on shot of his genitals (!!!) that I found soon after. As if that wasn’t bad enough, I went through her sent messages and saw that she had sent him a topless picture of herself acompanied by some dirty talk. All I can say is thank god I had already had my evening glass of chardonnay!! Needless to say, I was scared for my daughter.

While I was pacing back and forth trying to figure out what to do, I remembered a front page USA Today article about Mousemail.com, the free site you mentioned!! That same night, I visited Mousemail.com and signed up for the service. It is like a godsend because if my daughter tries to send or receive an inappropriate text or email, it gets diverted to me before it reaches the person it was meant for! I do not feel like I am spying on my daughter anymore (no need to search her phone behind her back!!). I truly feel like I am protecting her. If those pictures got into the wrong hands, she could get in the kind of trouble that ruins lives.

We had quite a chat the next morning!! Once I explained the risks involved with sexting (child pornography charges, registration as a sex offender, threats from child predators) she seemed pretty scared and actually didn’t mind that we had signed up for Mousemail. I am so glad you are spreading the word about this wonderful service (not only is it FREE, but it is also the only one of its kind)!

Thank you!

Angie

Anne May 19, 2011 at 10:42 pm

I also use Mousemail to monitor my son’s email and text messaging and it is a great product! It is 100% free and allows parents to monitor their kids online communications (an absolute necessity these days) without intruding too much on their privacy. Mousemail scans all incoming and outgoing emails and texts for inappropriate content. Any messages that are flagged for bad content are automatically sent to the parents before they reach the kids! Parents can review the messages and decide whether or not their kids will be allowed to see them. This way, children never has to get exposed to whatever harmful content is being sent their way. Usually, parental control software is very expensive and in my opinion, useless, since once a harmful message reaches a kid, the damage is already done.

Thanks for introducing such a useful product at no cost to the customer!

Anne

way to sms October 4, 2011 at 4:51 am

Texting has definitely allowed my family to communicate more often and there have been plenty of positives to this. However I have seen a difference in the quality time we spend together as a family and how our normal communication has changed. It seems hard these days to have the kids attention for anymore then a few minutes…I can see the good aspects to this but I believe there is a greater price to pay in the end.

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